It’s time to cut the cake.  What do you do?  Are you going to smash it or feed it nicely?

The cake cutting and feeding tradition is as old as time.  Really.  It goes way back.  It’s a combination of several ethnic traditions, the earliest of which dates back to ancient Rome. But you didn’t come here today to learn about the history of wedding cakes, you came to figure out if you should smash cake in each other’s faces.

Yes.  Wait… no.  Ugh, there are so many options.  Let’s take a look at the factors and you can decide for yourself.

First off, it’s just plain fun.  This is a perfectly legitimate reason to start a two person food fight.  You’ve survived your stressful wedding preps and ceremony, you made it through everybody staring at you during the first dance, and you didn’t cry (too hard) during the father-daughter dance.  Have fun with it!

But there’s the mess.  Oh, the mess.  It’s going to get smeared all over the makeup that took an hour or more for a specially hired artist to apply.  If it drips off your face, it’s going to end up on your wedding dress that you spent hundreds or thousands of dollars buying. Your groom doesn’t have to worry about makeup on his face (we assume) but he does have to worry about it getting on his suit or tux.  If he owns it, that’s an extra dry cleaning charge.  If it’s rented, you’ll probably get an extra fee on it.

In addition, we can already hear the internal maternal dialogue: “That’s so disrespectful!”  It really isn’t if you’re in on it, but the point is that you might be judged by parents or some of the other older generations.  If that matters to you, take time to think about it.  However, you’re not getting married for them, you’re getting married for you.  Don’t let their dated judgments get to you.

Make sure that your new spouse is on the same page as you, whether they actually want to be or not.  If you don’t want to smash, make your partner fully aware of it well before wedding day.  There’s a good chance that he’ll want to smash anyway.  Threatening bodily harm should get the point across.

In the end, do whatever you want.  If you want to go for it, then go for it.  If you don’t, then don’t.  As long as you’re aware of the potential cleanup process and any other implications that might come along with doing it or not doing it, just have fun.  Either way, you should be fine.


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